Success Circle: Guest Expert Jeannette Maw
5/22/12 Guest Expert, Jeannette Maw of www.goodvibeuniversity.com shares her wisdom, teachings, and secrets to activating the Law of Attraction in your life to manifesting what you want.
Success Circle: Guest Expert Ann Webb
5/15/12 – Guest Expert, Ann Webb of www.ideallifevision.com shares her inspiration & insights related to vision, goals, and manifesting.
Success Circle – Guest Expert Sean Smith – Your Money Beliefs
This is a juicy call with Master NLP Practitioner & Coach, Sean Smith of www.coachseansmith.com
MN3488_03192012110239910_1068308.mp3 – 3/19/12
My New Approach to Goal Setting
All too often, goals will be set with great passion and desire for achieving a major objective. This could be doubling one’s income, writing a book, losing 100 pounds, or organizing the entire home. These are great and grand goals to have, yet in supporting you to set yourself up to succeed, I invite you to apply the MTO formula by Raymond Aaron to help increase your odds and pleasure with goal setting and achievement.
When we set goals that are a huge stretch, we will likely either overwhelm ourselves and back off the goal, not believe it’s truly possible, or perhaps not even start the goal process in the first place.
When it comes to goal setting, I invite you to think of “scaling” your goals for optimum success. When it’s scalable, we can see the goal in chunks and as a series of progress versus an all or nothing, black and white scenario.
Consider each of your goals – sales, income, health, relationships, organization, etc. Now, apply the MTO formula to setting goals in those areas.
MTO stands for: Minimum, Target, Outrageous.
With each goal, identify, what’s my minimum achievement level that I must/will do no matter what? What’s my ideal target that I’m reaching for? What would be my outrageous, over the moon level?
For example, let’s use health as a goal. You’ve been setting high goals with your exercise and it’s just not happening. Perhaps it’s too unrealistic with your time constraints or you simply aren’t in the habit of it.
Minimum: Exercise 2X a week for 15 minutes a session
Target: Exercise 3X a week for at least 20 minutes a session.
Outrageous: Exercise 4X a week or more for at least 30 minutes a session.
Do you see how you could do the same thing for your sales calls? Organizing projects? Writing that book?
Doesn’t that feel doable for at least the minimum level? And once we get moving – we get into momentum with our goals – our odds go up of achieving even more.
This strategy is especially helpful if you feel that perfectionism is undermining you in following through and taking action. You can always commit to the minimum level and in doing so you’ll often hit the target level and in some cases, your outrageous goal.
By offering yourself the opportunity to make your goals about progress and not perfection, you keep yourself motivated and in the game of goal achievement. As you achieve one goal or level, you will feel inspired to go on to achieve more. Momentum is now in your favor and your confidence is higher, inspiring you to believe in and go for your outrageous goals!
What if the shoe drops syndrome?
Have you ever experienced that feeling or thought when things are going really well, that what if the shoe drops? In other words, now that things are going smoothly, where is the potential trouble going to come from?
I know I’ve been guilty of this myself.
It’s as if we don’t trust when things are going well, good, successful for us.
I love the thought provoking teaching from Gay Hendricks where he says, “How good can you stand it?” Meaning how much joy, success, and good stuff can you handle? That’s worthwhile to consider isn’t it? How good can you stand it?
I realized in a coaching session today that when we are living with that fear or anxiety, what is really happening are two things:
1. We are allowing that thought to take us out of the present moment by living future forward. When we feel guilt or regret, we are in the past. When we feel fear or anxiety about “what if’s” we are living in the future. In other words, not the PRESENT or real moment we actually have. Let’s return to this present moment and deal with what is, not what if or may be. The present is where our power is at.
2. According to Susan Jeffers, author of “Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway” she claims that under all fear is really the question, “What if I can’t handle it?” What if something bad happens (aka shoe drops!) and I can’t handle the loss, feelings, fear, humiliation, etc.?
Here’s the TRUTH – you will handle it. You always have. You are worthy and deserving of having great stuff in your life. And if you’re not used to the great stuff so it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar, make a conscious decision to become comfortable. Repeat after me, “I allow myself to receive. I trust myself. I am worthy and deserving. I am capable to handle it.”
I am choosing to live in the present. I am choosing to become more and more comfortable with the good stuff – the JOY in this PRESENT moment.
Let’s do this together – will you join me?
Much love & gratitude,
Tiffany
How good can you stand it?!