by Tiffany | Apr 16, 2012 | Goals, Money, Sales, Success
As long as we’re alive, there will be change involved. As long as change is involved, fear & discomfort will be felt at times. It’s normal and to be expected. Knowing this can help empower you on your path rather than throwing you off course.
Consider this, anytime you’re changing what is FAMILIAR to you, it will likely feel uncomfortable or simply unfamiliar, in other words, leaving the comfort zone. Now even if you’re sick & tired of something in your life and you’re changing it, you’ll still likely experience some degree of fear or discomfort. See, to the subconscious mind, you’re changing certainty and certainty equates to safety – which is the top priority to the subconscious mind. It’s almost as if you’re sending up smoke signals to the subconscious mind to be on the lookout of this new terrain you’re entering.
It might be a new relationship, new career path, health changes…it could also show up when you’re growing your business or doubling your income. Whether you see the change as positive or negative, the fact that you’re changing the familiar and certain, you will provoke feelings of discomfort.
So what to do when those uncomfortable feelings show up?
Here’s a few things that I utilize to help me:
- Get Curious. What’s this about? I like to get curious about my fear and poke around to see what is creating it. I like to take the observer or similar to the reporter and ask more questions versus freeze or shutdown. Get curious about the feelings versus taking them as fact. Feelings are not facts – they’re simply indicators and/or teachers.
- Get Moving. Many times changing up my environment and/or getting my body moving helps me release the fear energy and clear my head. It can help to shift your focus and the fear versus staying stagnate or stuck in it. There are many benefits to exercise, specifically the natural endorphins that the body produces that create a calming effect.
- Get Support. Having a coach, friend, or accountability partner who you can talk and connect with to support you during change is a key success strategy. Having outside insight that you respect as well as the social support to be your cheering squad will help significantly with staying the course of your goals and working through your fear versus being stopped by it.
I also like to: pray, meditate, read, utilize essential oils, eat healthier foods, journal, listening to uplifting music, do things that bring me joy, go hiking, time in nature, workshops, coaching, and time with loved ones.
What’s on your list?
I invite you to create a list of things that support and inspire you as resources to nourish yourself during the uncomfortable feelings.
By recognizing that fear and feelings of discomfort are normal when working through change and new territory, we realize that it’s part of the change process. We no longer have to assume that fear means something is wrong or that it’s a “sign” yet rather more often it’s a sign that you’re human and alive experiencing a normal reaction to change.
If fear is a biggie for you, I recommend the book, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways” by Dr. Susan Jeffers as she covers thoroughly the aspects of fear and how to handle it.
I cheer you on as you take on new changes & new experiences for yourself!
by Tiffany | Mar 13, 2012 | Goals
All too often, goals will be set with great passion and desire for achieving a major objective. This could be doubling one’s income, writing a book, losing 100 pounds, or organizing the entire home. These are great and grand goals to have, yet in supporting you to set yourself up to succeed, I invite you to apply the MTO formula by Raymond Aaron to help increase your odds and pleasure with goal setting and achievement.
When we set goals that are a huge stretch, we will likely either overwhelm ourselves and back off the goal, not believe it’s truly possible, or perhaps not even start the goal process in the first place.
When it comes to goal setting, I invite you to think of “scaling” your goals for optimum success. When it’s scalable, we can see the goal in chunks and as a series of progress versus an all or nothing, black and white scenario.
Consider each of your goals – sales, income, health, relationships, organization, etc. Now, apply the MTO formula to setting goals in those areas.
MTO stands for: Minimum, Target, Outrageous.
With each goal, identify, what’s my minimum achievement level that I must/will do no matter what? What’s my ideal target that I’m reaching for? What would be my outrageous, over the moon level?
For example, let’s use health as a goal. You’ve been setting high goals with your exercise and it’s just not happening. Perhaps it’s too unrealistic with your time constraints or you simply aren’t in the habit of it.
Minimum: Exercise 2X a week for 15 minutes a session
Target: Exercise 3X a week for at least 20 minutes a session.
Outrageous: Exercise 4X a week or more for at least 30 minutes a session.
Do you see how you could do the same thing for your sales calls? Organizing projects? Writing that book?
Doesn’t that feel doable for at least the minimum level? And once we get moving – we get into momentum with our goals – our odds go up of achieving even more.
This strategy is especially helpful if you feel that perfectionism is undermining you in following through and taking action. You can always commit to the minimum level and in doing so you’ll often hit the target level and in some cases, your outrageous goal.
By offering yourself the opportunity to make your goals about progress and not perfection, you keep yourself motivated and in the game of goal achievement. As you achieve one goal or level, you will feel inspired to go on to achieve more. Momentum is now in your favor and your confidence is higher, inspiring you to believe in and go for your outrageous goals!
by Tiffany | Dec 6, 2011 | Blog
Have you ever experienced that feeling or thought when things are going really well, that what if the shoe drops? In other words, now that things are going smoothly, where is the potential trouble going to come from?
I know I’ve been guilty of this myself.
It’s as if we don’t trust when things are going well, good, successful for us.
I love the thought provoking teaching from Gay Hendricks where he says, “How good can you stand it?” Meaning how much joy, success, and good stuff can you handle? That’s worthwhile to consider isn’t it? How good can you stand it?
I realized in a coaching session today that when we are living with that fear or anxiety, what is really happening are two things:
1. We are allowing that thought to take us out of the present moment by living future forward. When we feel guilt or regret, we are in the past. When we feel fear or anxiety about “what if’s” we are living in the future. In other words, not the PRESENT or real moment we actually have. Let’s return to this present moment and deal with what is, not what if or may be. The present is where our power is at.
2. According to Susan Jeffers, author of “Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway” she claims that under all fear is really the question, “What if I can’t handle it?” What if something bad happens (aka shoe drops!) and I can’t handle the loss, feelings, fear, humiliation, etc.?
Here’s the TRUTH – you will handle it. You always have. You are worthy and deserving of having great stuff in your life. And if you’re not used to the great stuff so it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar, make a conscious decision to become comfortable. Repeat after me, “I allow myself to receive. I trust myself. I am worthy and deserving. I am capable to handle it.”
I am choosing to live in the present. I am choosing to become more and more comfortable with the good stuff – the JOY in this PRESENT moment.
Let’s do this together – will you join me?
Much love & gratitude,
Tiffany
How good can you stand it?!
by Tiffany | Aug 15, 2011 | Blog
If you’re in business for yourself, you either have struggled with or are currently struggling with the following two items:
1. Time Management – Managing multiple priorities when running your business.
2. Consistency – Valuable priorities executed on a regular basis versus the RANDOM approach.
When the entire business is on your shoulders, it is easy to be distracted by all there is to get done and stay on top of on a regular basis to create a sufficient cash flow and levels of sustainable success. One of the reasons I see that a business struggles or even has to go out of business is the lack of consistency with the core priorities of what I call the 3 Core Business Building Blocks.
I created a video to help you master your time management and create consistency in your business success. To view this valuable training video, click here:
3 Core Business Building Blocks
When you are setting yourself up for success by mastering the Core 3, you will create momentum, money, and the consistency of business success.
To your success,
Tiffany
Tiffany Peterson is a Sales & Success Expert helping individuals and audiences make money living their passion. For more information and free resources on creating your ideal life and results, visit www.TheLighthousePrinciples.com.
As long as we’re alive, there will be change involved. As long as change is involved, fear & discomfort will be felt at times. It’s normal and to be expected. Knowing this can help empower you on your path rather than throwing you off course.